Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
I receive 1000s of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men as well as the #1 question that gets asked is, “How do I know if she (often a white girl, but not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
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As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question due to the fact its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally going to put it to bed for the first and before despite my misgivings.
I used to be recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men inside the art of attraction after i sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.
In our conversation, she made many of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and for that reason to the likes people and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers then one in which I’ll go more into detail within my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
So here is a list of a few of the things these girls will consciously do in order to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (and while I use the term white female, the reality is other women from Black to Latin American, may also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
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Maybe you’ve seen this type - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or put on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) but they really only know how to obtain pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, like a cosmopolitan man around the globe, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act serious and say something similar to, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?”
And you’ll say (inside the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I love your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Keep going but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.
Girls who may have had the pleasure of the situation tell me it’s unique and something they’ve never forgotten. Make sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
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Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even when they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've some sort of Asian acceptance to produce her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born in to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was introduced to the idea of dating Asian men by way of a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Martial Arts: I’ve never benefitted from this personally but one of my clients is a former North American fighting techinques champ and he’s currently quite a famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions about the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the people in his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the martial Arts circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You've got a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it be sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this type of comes up, use visual imagery to create a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own personal Korean BBQ, and the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating as well as arousing topics. Why, you ask? Because speaking of food such as this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is via his stomach, right? It pertains to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take on this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Focus on romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking together sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around inside the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express curiosity about anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and stuff like that). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s up to her. If she’s talking about how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The second kind of woman desires to impress you together with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s seeking you to a point in places you say something towards the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and flicks - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not implying it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this sort of girl despite my PUA mastery. I simply don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she just simply will not have anything just one BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or pores and skin, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is going well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible things such as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy for the reason that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we had been little boys, we all do melt under the praise of your beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that understanding of a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You are able to bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the very beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Equally as we men have sexual fantasies, ladies have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to stay emotionally detached, but remember that, by the end of this or any conversation you have with a female considering you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: Here is the biggest, most obvious indicator a girl can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Believe me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of times. So a white girl like that will say that she's got dated an Asian man before. She'll make this point and even further - she's going to try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the ways of Asian men” and can prove that “not all of you look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to make her seem more inviting and receptive to me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s up to you to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.
While having, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically make a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine some of those traits or even all of them together and, gentlemen, you just might find yourself conversing with one woman that is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the woman better than you found her!
SO WHY WAIT UNTIL NOW To resolve THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously that I was always reluctant to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give saying she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
So just why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve always been hesitant to answer because, over a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the reply to that question. In my opinion that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”
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Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, prior to the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.
And in today’s modern world with modern women, the very last thing dating is, is risk-free.
This means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who'd then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident if it's instead the woman who takes the initial risk. Instead of the most convenient way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, and a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to look, and ONLY look, because of these specific female signals of attraction first before making a move… Instead of making a move first and then making her attracted to you which she then supplies you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh your way into her heart (after which her pants)!
As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not an excellent looking or handsome guy. Each woman I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured by the media around the world.
Instead, start using these signals and indicators of interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and gotten to know her. You ought to take these 10 Signals She’s Attracted to Asian Men as signs that you should STAY when you’re already in the conversation with her rather than viewing them as indicators that you should initially approach her.
In the long run, what I’ve discovered with women that specifically that like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll enjoy being there but be cautious because you’ll get tied down quickly with a girl that chose you, not a girl YOU chose, that is a gross difference.
And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the aforementioned signals because she’s only interested in your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.
Asian Guys
When you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the overall game early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you've got yet to meet.